Words to live by. Or *try* to, anyway.
This is the print that hangs over our fireplace in our living room. When Johnny and I were first married, I moved into his home in the country. You long time readers know how well that went. The farmhouse was in a state of disrepair and much of it was left barren and empty where his ex-wife had departed and taken her belongings. There were walls filled with nails and nothing more. Dishes were mismatched and haphazard and there were old and broken toys littering the floor. Simply put, the house was sad.
The first year I lived there we decided to use what little money we had to purge the depressed home and bring back life to its dark empty walls. We filled two dumpsters with rubbish. We cleaned and then cleaned some more. We washed windows and bought new curtains, ridding ourselves of the heavy and dirty mustard yellow drapes that hid the sunlight from our living room. We painted. We purchased new furniture and rugs. We bought an entertainment center and filled it with our combined treasures and pictures of our new little family.
One lazy Sunday we were strolling through the galleria and we spotted the above print.
At the time we had a simple antique mirror hanging above our fireplace and that was perfectly fine. However, once we both spotted this picture, we knew it was absolutely ideal for our new home, and it would become our new mantra for living.
Happiness, often, can be a choice. There have been many days when being a new blended family was stressful for each and every one of us. It can be challenging and frustrating at times and all four of us have had to make adjustments and compromises.
Sometimes in our daily lives when our love becomes an effort, one of us will mention the print to the other and on more than one occasion I’ve looked at Johnny and vice versa and we’ve said, “today, we’re choosing happiness”.
It’s so easy to get bogged down by the mundane minutiae of day to day life. Jobs, bills, groceries, kids, extended families and daily chores. For starters. Glancing up at our fireplace print never fails to gently nudge us to remember what really matters. Love, laughter and health. Knowing that no matter how trying our day has been, we made it through and we’re home. Together, and as a family.
Sure, sometimes it’s hard to find the good in what you’re going through, but if happiness is a choice or option in your life, even when you’re struggling, I recommend choosing it every single time.*
*now, if happiness is indeed not a choice, then I highly recommend a top shelf vodka.